I know myself well enough to know that whatever I write above this video

I know myself well enough to know that whatever I write above this video, I will inevitably edit and change 50 times. But I’m close to solidifying my perspective on the current political/social situation in the US right now and I feel ready to share my thoughts, in pencil, as it stands today.
I think it’s important to understand that I’m in a unique position to have perspective on advocacy and standing up against hate and malice. When we chose to take on Caleb, we drew a line in the sand. And the fallout, over the course of 4 years, has been grueling. Not just in court, but among family and friends. I accepted those terms because, in my heart, I knew I was doing what I believed was right. But there are consequences to the choices we make, and you have to live with those too.
What I have learned in this time is one thing. It’s not my idea and it’s something that, until recently, and unrelated to this political climate, I have come to fully accept in my heart. And I’m still trying to intellectually catch up, so bear with me.
You can’t fight hate with hate. You can’t fight hate with anger. And you cannot walk into a heated situation with negativity in your system. It will not achieve what you want it to.
If you want to make meaningful change, it starts with how you are with the people you are around. And, by that, I don’t mean the words you use. I mean what’s in your heart.
If you can look someone in the eye, someone that wants harm to come to you, and meet them with compassion, friend, that is it. That’s the stuff. That’s the place from which you change the world around you.
My point is, in no way, to do nothing. My point is that when you’re thinking and doing the actions you choose, you have to do it from a place of love. You do not need to love nazis, you guys. But you have to believe that there is something good in every person. You have to believe that. Completely. In your soul.
So when you protest, attend vigils, and act politically, do not think of your adversaries, think of the people you’re standing up for. Let that be the place from which you act.
Love is stronger than hate. Every mom knows that. Let it guide you in the darkest moments.
And good luck.

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Hilary Griffiths

You’re so wise

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Hilary Griffiths

Julie Love Gagen at the vigil in concord last night, a woman spoke about how the white supremacists were chanting “we will not be replaced” and said she felt sad for them because they feel that they are replaceable… it helped to think about that…

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Julie Love Gagen

It does not by any means excuse their actions or hate or ANY of it, but when you remove the mask of anger/fear/sadness, it’s interesting what you hear.

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Hilary Griffiths

Julie Love Gagen oh yes – certainly doesn’t excuse anything – was just interesting to think about that perspective…

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